Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Spending Quality Time Alone

One of the biggest challenges of young adulthood is learning to be comfortable spending time alone.

For me, the transition was a littler easier because I'm an only child--I've been spending time alone, entertaining myself my entire life. But at the same time, though I spent time entertaining myself, someone was usually in close physical proximity--I would be in my room, but my mom would be in the living room.

And of course, I would spend time with my friends studying, attending sporting events, etc.

But nonetheless, learning to embrace spending time alone is a valuable skill not everyone can master and I'll admit I still struggle with it from time to time.

Spending your alone time vegging on the couch and watching Netflix will definitely make it harder to want to spend time alone. Instead, diversify your alone-time activities:

  • Get outside: Don't be afraid to take a walk alone or hangout in the park and read your favorite book under a tree.
  • Drive: One of my favorite things to do is get in the car, crank the tunes and hit the open road. There's nothing like a solo car trip, even if it's just to the burbs or a scenic drive down a country road.
  • See a movie: I'll admit, the first time you go to a movie alone is a little daunting, but think about it--you're sitting in the dark, in silence, for two hours. Totally a solo activity.
  • Hit the bar: Starts out solo, but it's a great way to make new friends (wink, wink!). You're more approachable when you're alone (or a group of three--three's the magic number!). If you're uncomfortable, go during busier hours, so it's less obvious you're rolling solo.
  • Make a meal of it: Another seemingly scary option is going to eat alone. Instead of getting a table for one during dinner, try lunch or breakfast instead. These times are less daunting because odds are others are alone as well. People like to grab breakfast alone to prepare for the day and grabbing lunch solo gives you a nice break from your coworkers or classmates.
These are just a few of my favorite (and manageable) alone-time activities.

One day, after you've be comfortable with alone time, you'll even come to enjoy it. And people (those with families) tell me, you'll even miss it once it's gone. So take advantage while you still can!

Until next time, kiddies...

- J

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