Wednesday, January 18, 2012

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

This gem of a blog entry came to me through a Facebook link. I always make a point to take a few minutes to sift through the bevy of links in my newsfeed from friends and fan pages. You never know what you’ll find!

While reading 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself, I realized that I am guilty for a few of things and then started thinking about ways to change my habits.

8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.
This is a terrible, terrible habit. I often think about situations – personal, work-related, family, friends, etc. – from years ago with the “shoulda, woulda, coulda” mentality. I need to remind myself the past is the past and things cannot change.  Don’t dwell on it; learn from it and move on.

15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
This is where my competitive side kicks in. A habit probably spawned from the years of shinny on the pond with the boys and co-ed house-league soccer. Having a competitive nature is great, but there’s a time and a place. Not all-the-time is the time and not everywhere is the place. But it’s hard to break a habit that’s often ingrained into our brains at a fairly young age.

Not only did I compete in sports, but I also competed at school, grade-wise, with other students. “What’d ya get?” was a common phrase among classmates. Still to this day, I’m in college now, that exact phrase can be heard among students when essays and exams are handed back. The difference is now people act low-key, but for all you know it could be eating them up on the inside.

I’ve gotten over being competitive grade-wise. When you get to college you realize keeping you GPA high is necessary, but keeping a 4-point is not essential (and damn-near impossible). But I’ve moved on to “competing” over things like internships.

After a near-breakdown experience during the Fall 2011 semester because of the “competition,” I came to this realization: it doesn’t matter that someone else was chosen over me. Congratulations to that individual and I’ll try again next year. Persistence and perseverance are key in an industry where there is a vicious need-experience-to-gain-internship-need-internship-to-gain-experience cycle.

28. Stop worrying so much.
Yes, I worry. It sometimes keeps me up at night. The only solution, for me, to this problem is to keep a journal, writing down whatever is on my mind before I go to sleep. Another option I don’t take advantage of often because my brain is fried from reading textbooks is reading something for leisure.

Are you guilty of any of the items on this list? What can you do to be more self-positive?  

Rock out, kiddies!
- Jasmine

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